Loading ...Two Reasons That Dating Is Essentially “Out Of DATE”
Excuse the pun. You may be wondering right now, what in the world are you talking about Jeff? Have you ever asked yourself “why can’t I get a date?” Or how about ”why can’t I get past the first date? What I am trying to say is that the old way of dating just doesn’t work anymore in today’s super busy society. How many times have you heard “I’m too busy to go out”? That line is now being used more than “I’m busy washing my hair.” Well, I’m tired of it and I have given up on dating.
I believe that there are 2 reasons as to why traditional dating is not very successful. First of all, two people are put under enormous pressure to find out about each other, often in front of dinner. They have about 2 hours to decide if they want to continue seeing each other. How in the world are you going to make a decision just based on 2 hours? There is no possible way to know a person just in one night. Now that leads to my second point. When two people go out on a date, it is usually all pretend since they are there to make a good first impression. Even if one decides to date that person again, the decision was based on the “fake” show that the other put on. Heck! Do you think that in 6 months, the guy will continue to open the doors for her?
What I do believe in is a different kind of dating. One that actually involves being friends first and finding out about each other. I like to call it “Atypical” dating. The beauty of this kind of dating is that you get to find out about your potential partner without the pressure and without all the fake acting. Ever heard some girl tell you “I’ve never seen that side of him” or “I never thought he was capable of it”? The reason that this happens is because of all the pretending and acting that is going on in the beginning that causes it. Then after the honeymoon period of 6 months or so, the real person starts to come out. By starting off as friends, you skip the entire fake act and you get to know the real person right from the beginning. As the saying goes,”Best friends make the best lovers”!
My next article will tell you about the best things the both of you can do that will help you bond together faster.
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Tags: being real, Dating, friends
