Loading ...Nice Guys Finish Last? Yes! How Not Be One.
Nice guys finish last. This is as true of a statement than any theory mankind has ever come up with. Nice guys finish last is up there in the same class as E=mc2, three sides to every triangle (DUH!) and the rich get richer. It is so true that even Green Day wrote a song about it. Yours truly was the typical nice guy that women would only see as “A friend.” Hearing “Let’s just be friends” was even worse of a feeling then my mom telling me, “You’re grounded!”
Although Macaroni Grill is one of the coolest restaurants in the country, I can’t help but be traumatized by it every time I pass by one. You see, there was this Macaroni Grill that was 20 minutes from my house. It was supposed to be a date and it turned into a nightmare. I will never forget it. I heard those bad words from her (let’s just be friends) and it turned my world upside down. The worse part was the drive home because it was 20 minutes of PURE SILENCE. I couldn’t drive faster because I was going over the speed limit already. It was torture and all I could think of was that I was just rejected.
That night, my sister asked how the date went. I told her that it was horrible. She then made it worse by telling me something that all guys hate to hear. She said, “No worries, you’re a nice guy. The right girl will come along one of these days.” That was the day that the nice guy in me died forever.I can honestly say after that incident 3 years ago, I have control over my dating life in the way that I want. I’m sure many of you guys who are reading this can relate to my story. I want to let you know that I’ve been there before and it isn’t a great feeling. If I can change for the better, you can too. This is how I kicked Mr. Nice Guy out to the street for good.
1) First of all, you have to be like the army. They send troops to enemy lines in hopes of finding out what they know. Like they say at the end of each G.I. Joe cartoon episode, “Knowing is half the battle!” What I’m trying to say is that you need to know how chicks think, especially about nice guys.
This is a list of what a GUY thinks they should act like: always be nice to her, call her often, become a weakling around her, let her make all the decisions, tell her your feelings too early in the relationship, put your needs before her and listens to her problems.
What a woman really wants is: a confident guy around her, one that knows how to flirt, is a challenge, takes the lead, knows when to admit those feelings, is humorous and leaves time and space for himself.
2) The #1 pick in the 2007 draft is…the jerk. It’s amazing how the jerk gets the women all of the time. Nice guys better get used to this fact of life. Women don’t say, “Oh he’s hot” or “I want to have his children” about the nice guy. If we were to get picked at all, it would be in the 103rd round of the draft. Women will never choose the nice guy as #1 no matter how much you try to beg, explain and kiss butt to a woman.
The great thing is, I’ve sent the troops over to enemy lines already! The report back is opposite of what nice guys think. Don’t believe me? Just keep doing the same things from the previous “guys” list and prepare for many long, lonely winters. If you are a nice guy with women and you aren’t willing to change, then you can pretty much guarantee 100% that you will always struggle with women. So just change ok??
3) Meet Me Halfway. Just like the famous song by Kenny Loggins from the movie Over The Top. What you want to do is have a personality that lands between being a nice guy and being a jerk. Don’t be afraid to groom your personality into one that women find irresistible and attractive. This is for your own good and women will love you for it. Just stop with the dumb excuses like: I want women to like me for who I am, It’s against my morals and I’m afraid of bad karma if I change. Oh please!!
Nice guys need to become a great guy with added swagger. Since you are already a nice guy, most likely you are already a great guy. Now, we have to work on developing that swagger. A great guy with added swagger is a nice guy who also showcases the behaviors, actions and personality traits that women are attracted to such as: Confidence, humor and flirting. Work on these traits and women will start flocking to you like a wolf on a herd of sheep.
Just remember the fact that women generally don’t want nice guys or maybe they’re too busy chasing after jerks to realize that they do. Also, remember to meet halfway. Be good to women but remember that you come first in your life, then your family, your friends and your girlfriend in that order. Good luck!
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Tags: , G.I. Joe, Green Day, Kenny Loggins, Let's just be friends, Macaroni Grill, nice guy, Over The Top
