Getting help from others is often the most important step a person can take to improve his or her self-esteem, but it can also be the most difficult. People with low self-esteem often don’t ask for help because they feel they don’t deserve it.
But since low self-esteem is often caused by how other people treated you in the past, you may need the help of other people in the present to challenge the critical messages that come from negative past experiences.
Ask for support from your friends. Have them tell you what they like about you and what they think you do well. Have someone around just to vent to when you are feeling low. This person is your sounding board. He or she should allow you to express yourself without trying to fix things.
You may also ask for a hug when you need one. Dr. Leo Buscaglia, also known as “The Hug Doctor” advocates hugging as a therapeutic measure in all situations. Sometimes the physical contact can fix anything by making you feel worthy of that hug. It may sound silly, but try it – it really does work!
There are plenty of other people who can help you with your self-esteem. If you are having trouble in school, go to professors or advisors and ask for help in classes. These people are here to help you learn, and they will! Once you start to realize success in your classes, your self-esteem will rise!
If there is something at work that you feel you are lacking in, ask your supervisor for help or advice. Ask for new projects or challenges to help foster your successes. You can also ask your co-workers to help you along by being supportive of each other.
Consider taking classes or trying out new activities to increase your sense of competence. You could take extra classes, join an exercise group, or find community classes in something that interests you such as scrap booking or karate. You can Get Help from Teachers & Other Helpers
If the problem really is too over-whelming for you to deal with on your own, you may want to talk to a therapist or counselor. Sometimes low self-esteem can feel so painful or difficult to overcome that the professional help of a therapist or counselor is needed. Talking to a counselor is a good way to learn more about your self-esteem issues and begin to improve your self-esteem.
Besides the inner voice, you need to begin telling yourself certain things to recognize in yourself.