Who?

Are you one of those who think this way? If yes, for sure you already face so many failures in life. It is expected because you yourself already think of it that way. You let your negative thought ruin your chance of success. The dilemma is not because you cannot make it but because you cannot see yourself make it.

Successful business people often mention positive affirmation. They consider it as the main ingredients of their recipe to success.

Their declaration of success even before they became one is part of their daily lives. They constantly reminding themselves of the things they want to achieve. By doing that, it makes their goals more visually clear and it opens their minds to more opportunities of fulfilling it.

How?

Think of your most desired dream, a house, a car or a luxurious retirement. Let’s say you choose the last one and you are just thirty years old, working as a junior employee. Given you already planed of retiring at the age of sixty, you still have another thirty years to achieve your extravagant lifestyle. If every day you picture yourself travelling abroad, owning a luxury car and sheltered in a grand mansion, what do you think will be the effect of this to your present life?

No doubt, you will work hard, manage your finances wisely and invest your earnings on safe but profitable investments. And if you ever face some problems while you travel your journey to retirement, it will no longer matter to you that much. You will see even the worst situation as an opportunity for you to learn something new. The power of positive thinking will sustain you till the end of your journey.

When?

Now, you can start changing your life by totally changing your line of thinking. It is not a one day thing especially if you are pessimistic. For starters, look at yourself in the mirror every morning before you even brush your teeth. Instead of noticing how unruly your hair is, try to find the things you like about your face. Focus on your stand-out feature and tell yourself how beautiful you are.

This is a very good exercise because not only you appreciate yourself, it also boost your confidence to face the world. Imagine, you already see yourself beautiful even before your morning routine. What more if you already fixed your hair and cleaned up your face.

Why?

Because you are worth it, you are capable of achieving your dreams and you deserve to be happy. No matter how small or big your dreams are, you can fulfill it if you start packing your language of negative thoughts. You book it for a one way ticket to the farthest part of the world and say goodbye to it for good.

In life, the law of attraction is not applicable. The negative thoughts will not attract positive things. So you need to shop for a new wardrobe of positive affirmations and consider positive thinking as your undergarments. For sure you will not leave your house without wearing it, right?

By persistently seeing yourself in your dreamed situation, your mind will think of it as your reality and it will materialize. You need to make a choice, either you’d stay to be a failure or start changing your last name into success. Positive affirmation only work to people who made the right choices.

Knowing the benefits of being rich, you may also desire of becoming one in the near future. But if you are a just a low rank employee of a medium size business or you are just starting your own business, how can you be rich in a shortest possible time?

Think RICH.

All things begin in your mind. Before you could read this article, your brain will first instruct your eyes to recognize the set of letters. Then your eyes will transmit the words back to your brain for it to be analyzed and comprehend. It happens so fast, you would never notice that it undergo that process.

Same thing applies to thinking you are rich. If you let the power of your brain took over your desire to be rich, it will surely be a reality. How? You start thinking of yourself as neighbor of Bill Gates. Look around you. There, you could see the things you bought for yourself. No matter how cheap and outdated your desktop computer is, you had bought it from the money you have. Remember the happiness you felt when you brought it home and use it for the first time. Let your mind do the magic.

Aren’t you happy with the things your money can buy?

Act RICH.

Rich personalities act more refine and sophisticated than ordinary people. True, because rich people say so. Wealthy and influential people set the standards of what they think is refine and sophisticated. They lead the way and others follow their trends. If you wanted to be one of them, you should also act like one.

If money can make rich people powerful, you can also have power over others even if you don’t have enough resources. How? Take in charge and make a difference. Even if you are only a minimum wage worker, act like you own the company. Be the first one to be at your office and leave the last. By doing that, you gain respect from your co-workers and you could even inspired others to do the same. Moreover, it could open greater opportunities for you and it could persuade your boss to give you a raise or promotion.

Aren’t you satisfied with the power you have over your peers and boss?

Feel RICH.

Having a sense of security is priceless. Being able to sleep at night without any worries is everybody’s dream. Money can make you feel safe. False! In contrary based on some studies, rich people often felt unsafe because of what they have. That’s the reason why most of the houses of the rich and famous are heavily secured. Some hired bodyguards and trained K-9 dogs just to protect themselves.

You don’t need to hire security guards and install alarms for your small apartment. Though it still advisable you always lock your door. So how can you be truly rich without feeling the uncertainty of your surrounding? You may not have all the money on the world but you are the one certified Richie Rich if you have your spouse, relative, friends and pets. The love they can provide for you are more than enough to make you feel secure. You can sleep well at night knowing no matter what, you have someone you can call to especially if you are in trouble. And you don’t have to pay them any wages just return the favor by reciprocating the love they’ve given to you.

Aren’t they enough to make you feel more secure?

Money, money, money! Being rich doesn’t mean you need to have lots of it. You just need to think rich by buying only the things you can afford. Act rich by taking in charge of your life and maximize your full potential. Lastly, feel rich by appreciating your true wealth, the people who showered you with affection. You don’t need lots of money to be able to experience the luxuries of the rich and famous. Just follow these three easy steps and in no time you could be richer than Oprah.

Do you still want to be a billionaire?

How do you react if you heard bad criticism? Are you going to cry to get sympathy or you let your emotions cloud your mind and attack the person by talking back? The urge to defend your selves is understandable but to foolishly reciprocate the criticism is unacceptable. You are usually criticized by your relatives, bosses, colleagues and close friends and it’s like burning bridges if you tried to attack them back. You of course don’t want to ruin your relationship with them.

So, what do you need to do when you receive bad criticism?

Listen.

Do you just ignore bad criticism and turn away? True, in some situations it is better to backed off and let it pass however it doesn’t apply on this one. It is not very wisely to turn your back and walk away, Why? Because you would miss the opportunity to hear others point of view.

Let them speak and don’t interrupt them when you think you heard enough. You need to pause and just let them finish. When they’re done and you feel you want to explode and defend yourself, stop! Breathe. Acknowledge their comment by saying thank you and politely ask them why they end up to that judgment.

In doing that you give dignity not only to yourself but also to the person you are talking to.

Learn.

After all the negativity, find time to reflect on it. You can play it back on your mind, though you need not to focus on their bad remarks instead search for key points you may find helpful. For example, your boss may hurt your feelings when your presentation had been rejected. But because you listen to his remarks, you learned the reason why you failed to please him.

All the misdoings and unfortunate occurrence in our life cannot be undone. You just need to learn from it and you’ll become wiser. You can make the most of any bad situations and always look on the brighter side.

Let go… Let’s Go!

You don’t have to sulk in. You have to let go of the resentment you feel towards the person who hurt your feelings. It will do you no good if you continue feeling bad for yourself. Move forward and bring with you the things you’ve learned from that experience.

These steps are easier said than done. But if you practice it every time you receive bad criticism, you’ll find yourself better than the one who criticize you.

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Many have heard of the terms Law of Attraction or Universal Laws of Attraction thanks to the mainstream media that we have today. However, not many people know that these laws have been studied and passed down since ancient time. There are people that are aware of what the law of attraction is and how to make it work while others don’t know what it is at all or how to benefit from it.

Two reasons that prevent law of attraction practitioners from being successful at using the techniques are 1) the are not sure whether to believe in the power of the laws or 2) they believe in the power of the laws, but they don’t know how to use it correctly. Law practitioners are at an advantageous time of their lives because now is the perfect time to learn and discover the power and secrets behind the law and how to take advantage of amazing potential greatness.

You may be asking what is the universal law of attraction? The universal portion means that it applies to everyone. The law of attraction goes beyond race, gender, religion and personal problems. It will never single out which person it wants to work with.

The law of attraction means that what you think of, you will get. The saying like begets like is a terrific description of what the power of the law of attraction can do for you. This is not just hype or plain craziness as it is confirmed in the mainstream by famous celebrities such as Oprah.

So how do you get the law of attraction to work for you? It starts with positive thinking. You always tell yourself that you are the luckiest person on the planet. Then you go even deeper than that by visualizing what it is that you want. You must use all five senses to describe your deepest desires. What is the color of that car that you want? How does it smell? What does it feel like sitting in the driver’s seat? Then you have to go even deeper than that by affirming the present. What this means is that you are visualizing that this is happening to you at this very moment. When you enter this deep state of thought, your subconscious mind will start to make your thoughts turn into real facts.

A majority of practitioners fail with the law of attraction because they have doubts that it will work. Even the slightest of doubts will decrease the effectiveness of the entire process. To get amazing results, you need to get rid of all your negative thoughts in order for this to work. This is the most important strategy that you need to remember when applying the steps. When you do, you will be well on your way to mastering the law of attraction.

The world is filled with people whose attitude is nothing more than “I owe you and you owe me.” You have most likely known someone in your life that lives on favors. It isn’t hard for you to figure out that someone is tallying up a total. The best way to live life is to recognize that success is gained by giving without keeping score. Keeping score will ultimately lead to failure in life.

Almost everyone on this planet has been guilty for keeping score. You may have even done so on a small scale. Let me give two examples that many of you can relate to. Have you ever been to lunch with a group of six friends and for some reason one person of the group always cheats the others when the bill comes? Then you exclude that person from the next lunch because you paid more than your fair share. How about the time your friends didn’t invite you to a party and you didn’t invite them to the next one just get back at them?

So what are the two lessons that you should learn from keeping score? The first lesson here is to let go of the scorekeeper in you. Relationships, whether they are friends, acquaintances, business contacts or romance, grow when you give without expecting anything back. The most important thing you need to know is that what you give you get back. You may not get what you really want now, but the first thing that comes back to you is that you get the reward of having done something good for someone.

Lesson number two is to make it your lifestyle to give. Giving is the key that builds real relationships, not delivering and expecting payments. Once it becomes natural to you, you will find out that you will become more successful along with your friends and contacts. You will also get to set free the obsession of scorekeeping.

So how can you start to make giving your lifestyle? It’s really all a mental approach. Try this exercise out. Begin by closing your eyes, relaxing and taking deep breaths while imagining that you no longer keep score. Now start to visualize how you might feel in your relationships, your work and your friendships without keeping score. Are you beginning to feel peaceful and sound? This is how life will feel like without all that stress. It’s just easier not to keep score.

Just because you stopped keeping score doesn’t mean that you should let yourself be taken advantage of. When you give, don’t give because you have to. Just do the things that make you feel truly good inside. Just try it for a while and then decide for yourself if this change in mindset has helped to enhance your life.

Don’t be afraid to stop scorekeeping. You will never run out of things to give. Go right ahead and spend a week or even a day giving without expectation. Enjoy the good feeling that comes with your charity. In the end, the positive karma will make your life even better than you have it now.

The principle explains that all you need to do is merely associate yourself with the kind of people that you want to develop into. If you are aspiring to be a nobel prize winning scientist, then you hang out with other great scientists. If your goal is to be a successful real estate investor, then you want to seek out others that have been successful in real estate investing. These examples may sound very simple, but their effects are astonishing

It is a known fact that your friends and associates are the people that you care most about, the ones you spend most of your time with, the ones you speak to the most and the ones that you truly care about what they think of you. Although you don’t realize it, but as time goes on, you will start to subconsciously act the way your friends do. You will notice that you will speak like they speak, dress like they dress and think like they think.

Stop and try this exercise right now. Think of the people that you spend most of your time with. Do they encourage you to excel in life and reach for your goals? Or do they drag you down with them? Do they live their lives in ways that truly inspire you? Are they people of worth and sincere morals? It is important to ask these questions to yourself because everyday that passes by, these people’s behaviors and thoughts become your own little by little.

It is essential that you choose the surroundings you live in carefully because the setting that you choose will eventually shape you into the person you will become. Be wary of the kinds of friends that you choose because the environment will gradually cause you to become like them. If being successful has high importance value to you, then associate yourself with other people that are successful.

By following the principle of success by association and choosing the right environment to be in, you will be well on your way to having a meaningful and successful life.

Number 1: Make sure you smile at the new person. It is often the first type of contact you have with a person. It is a very powerful form of non-verbal communication. Smiles are free, easy to do and can lead you naturally to a conversation.

Number 2: Make good eye contact. This is another powerful form of non-verbal communication. There is a saying that “The eyes are the windows to a person’s soul.” Holding eye contact is a sign of confidence so don’t look at the floor right after looking into her eyes. Doing so will make you look shy or disinterested.

Number 3: Speak up and say “hello.” Do you remember when you were a child and your parents told you not to speak until you are spoken to? Hopefully everyone doesn’t follow that rule. If they did, then we would live in a really silent world. Go ahead, break that rule when it comes to meeting a new person.

Number 4: Use a firm handshake when meeting someone new. Just be sure not to squeeze their hand so tight that he or she will end up with broken bones. If so, then watch out because you’ll never get another chance to make a good first impression

Number 5: Go to places that have the kinds of people you want to attract. If you want to meet other professionals, then join a professional organization. If you love hiking, then join a local hiking club. If you want to meet people with similar morals, beliefs, and values, try a church, synagogue or temple. The key is to put yourself out there in places have the same people that you are interested in. Remember, it is hard to attract new people when you are lounging around all alone at home watching reruns of American Idol.

Number 6: Dress the same as the people you want to attract. If you want to attract new customers, then you will need to dress like a businessman. Completely outfit yourself with a suit and tie. If you want to meet someone that is conservative, then do not wear something that is flashy or revealing. If you want to attract the 1960’s hippie crowd, then by all means, dress like one! The goal is to dress similar to the people that you want to meet

Number 7: Be honest, be positive and be brief. There is nothing that builds trust faster than being honest with the person that you have met for the first time. Don’t lie and tell them that you drive a Ferrari 450 when you really drive a 10 year old beat up car. Be positive because others like to spend time with these types of people as opposed to the negative thinking types. It’s all in the attitude! So don’t start off and tell them how much you hate your ex-girlfriend. Be brief, that way you have plenty of time for number 8

Number 8: Listen up to your new acquaintance! Everyone in society has this desire to feel significant. The easiest way to show someone that you are interested in them is to listen to what they have to say

Number 9: Be happy and content with everything that is going on in your life. When you are cheerful, it will show in your interactions with others. This will communicate an attractive positive attitude to others

Number 10: Be the type of person that you want to attract. There is a saying that “like attracts like.” If you are looking for open and honest people, then be open and honest yourself. If you want to attract someone who is athletic and has a fit lifestyle, be in shape and have a fit lifestyle yourself

By following these 10 tips, you will be well on your way to attracting new people into your life.

If you can just pay more attention, you will realize that you are tested by life in the same way that you were tested in school. They can come in various forms such as multiple-choice, fill in the blank and essay. Every decision that you come upon to make will decide the course of your future. It is through those choices that your life evolves and takes shapes. Sooner or later, if you yearn to change yourself, you have to learn that your life is really a sequence of personal choices.

If you want to heal from a bad relationship or have freedom and peace of mind from your troubles, then you need to admit that the reason you are stuck in a bad situation or event is because of the result of the choices that you have made. Change the mindset to think that no one is doing it to yourself but you. The reason you are stuck in a bad predicament is that you have been doing that to yourself all along.

No matter how bad you are feeling or what negative situation you find yourself in, life grants you the ability to choose a different response to your situation. This beauty in life is that we get to choose how we react to life’s tests. We were all born with the free will to make decisions. With that, it is up to you to decide how you want your future to take place.

Here is the technique to help you take the necessary steps to improve your life. When presented with a test from life, you can make a better choice by finding out what you don’t want. Once you realize this, it will become clear to you about what decision you should make or what your next move will be.

You can go back and analyze past choices you made by using the following method. Draw a small horizontal line and write down a choice that you made on your own. This can be about anything from leaving for college to getting married. Then draw a small vertical line from the end of the horizontal line. On the vertical line, write down the choice that you didn’t make. Continue to draw the horizontal line for choices made and vertical line for choices not made. You don’t have to put down every choice, just the ones that seem big in your life.

For each connection of the horizontal and vertical line, write down your values as to why you made that decision. For example my horizontal line would write “went to USC”. My vertical line would say “go to UCLA”. At the point where the two lines meet, I write down “better career opportunity.” Do this for all your major choices and analyze your values. Find out what it says about you and how you make decisions in your life.

Remember, just because something bad happens in your life, it doesn’t mean that you are a bad person. It just means that you may have made some bad decisions along the way. It also means that you are NEVER stuck with the consequences because you have the power to decide to handle the situation.

It is unfortunate because that is the way nature works. Life is always constantly changing whether you like it or not. How many of us would give the world to look and feel like 21 years old again? You obviously can’t keep the beautiful face that you once had, no matter how hard you tried. A great example is Sigourney Weaver. She doesn’t look as good as she did 20 years ago.

You may be happy and satisfied with your life and don’t want things to change, but unfortunately life doesn’t work that way. Speaking of change, it always happens when you least expect it and in the most inopportune times. You usually don’t realize what is happening to you until it is actually happening.

Have you ever been in a situation where you told yourself “I can’t believe this is happening to me?” The feeling that you have at that moment in time is what you don’t realize. When reality finally sinks in, it is unavoidable. You have to deal with it with it eventually. You can run but you can’t hide. The sooner you acknowledge the change, the sooner you can evaluate the situation, learn from it and grow.

Whenever you or others are presented with a problem, there are two outcomes that can occur. Should you choose to handle the situation in a positive way, it will bring people together. However, if you choose to deal with the circumstances in a negative light, it will tear people apart. It is your own choice as to which path you decide to choose.

Everyone, including you and I, gets to decide what kind of meanings and lessons we get to draw from each experience that happens to us. These changes can either be good or bad. The ways we choose to respond to each of life’s challenges can change the way we live and help us to grow personally. You may not find out right away what the lesson is, but if you hang in there long enough, the meaning will reveal itself.

In order to change your mind, try to look for the deeper message and change for the better. Don’t ever let life’s disappointments get you down. It’s all a part of growing up. Just remember that nothing can get better until you decide to change the way that you think about life’s challenges. Learn the lessons of the experience and take them along with you into the future. The sooner you do that, the better off you will be.

You can easily change your outlook in life by doing one simple step. Just by asking yourself HOW instead of WHY, you will be able to get rid of those negative sayings that limit your growth potential.

What you want to do is to pay close attention to the things that you say to yourself either out loud or in your mind. What is it that you are saying to yourself? Do any of following sound familiar? I can’t afford it? Why am I poor? Why can’t I find the love of my life? Why isn’t she calling me back? Why am I so fat?

Our brains are just another smart computer (or even better). The questions that you ask yourself will always get answered like a magic genie in a bottle. Just look at the way you are asking them. If you are posing the questions in a negative frame of mind, then your brain will just spit out negative and useless answers to your questions.

By simply turning those questions around using How, it will help you change your outlook on life and give you helpful ideas to get you on your way.

For example, you ask yourself why am I so fat? Your brain will gladly answer your question by telling you that: You sit on the couch all day watching TV, you’re lazy and do not go exercise, or you eat 20 Twinkies everyday.

However, if you just simply change the question to “How can I lose 20 pounds?” Well, your brain will be more than happy to tell you that you can go running 30 minutes per day/three times per week, start eating more fruits and vegetables and so on. See how a simple change in your question can give you the answers that you seek?

You can take it further by posing your question more specifically such as: “How can I lose 20 pounds in 1 month?” Or “How can I lose 20 pounds in 1 month and have fun doing it?”

Instead of asking “Why can’t I afford it?” (Brain says: you come from a poor family, you don’t have a good job, or you didn’t marry a rich person.) Turn it around and ask “how can I afford it?” Instead of saying “Why can’t I find a nice girl?” Say “How can I find a nice girl?”

By now, you should be getting the point that I am trying to make. Now start practicing and asking yourself HOW instead of WHY on a regular basis. Make it a part of your daily routine. You will soon realize that your outlook on life has shifted to the positive side and that you can practically achieve anything you want!